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Saying No For Flow

No is the key to defining your strategic focus and every important Yes therefore may require a thousand Nos ~ Daniel Goleman

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Key Takeaways

1. The Necessity of No

2. Saying No Commands Respect, Reassurance & Admiration from Others

3. Saying No Like a Pro

4. Asserting Your Boundaries More Broadly

5. Saying No Starts with Learning How to Assert Your Boundaries

6. Striking the Sweet Spot Between Collaborative and Assertive

Exercise- Yes Tracking & The Big 5

1. Firstly, read the Executive Summary Of The Power of A Positive No every evening, for the next week, list where you said yes, when you should have said no. This will make you hyper aware of the excessive agreeableness.

2. 2. Become a “no-man”— if in doubt, for the next six weeks SAY NO!

3. Take the Big Five personality test, assess for agreeableness. If agreeable, pay extra attention to this lecture and exercise as it’s more of a challenge for you.

Lesson Resources

1. Executive Summary Of The Power of A Positive No

2. Big Five Personality Test

3. Deep Work y Cal Newport

4. The Three Nos Not to Do: - An estimate of how much it has damaged your attention. Accommodate — Saying yes when you wanted to say no - Attack — A poor, destructive delivery of your “no” - Avoid — The avoidance of any commitment, neither yes nor no.

5. Optimal Separation While Working From Home! - “Go to work” — Have clear times for when you’re “at work” and ensure everyone knows. - Environmental Separation — Some physical separation is key, even if it means putting a desk in the bathroom! - Embed Transition Rituals — Replace your commute with an equivalent primer. - Get Dressed for Work — To help trigger the “on-off” work mode switch. - Box Work Hours — Tightly regimen when you start and finish work, high intensity, low duration.